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Friday, 25 January 2019

The Change we seek II: 4 years on.








 
Hi there,

As you have figured now, I’m not a very consistent writer, at all, even though I have a lot of write ups swirling in my head.

But as with most of my other write ups, this, has been inspired by a series of recent, but in this case rather unfortunate events.

I happened to be  going through my blog for old stuff that I wrote a long time ago, mostly just to pass the free time on my hands, then I came across this article I wrote in December 2015, which I titled the change we seek?.

Well, a long time has passed since then, and my opinion on some issues there have…changed.

I have been an ardent observer of our political clime for a long time now, and this is another case of devil’s alternative playing out in front of us. Its election season again and the promises have started flying in the air. Even those that are in power are promising things they ‘will do’,

I was generally impressed with the way Nigerians banded in 2015 to dislodge in my opinion, a very incompetent incumbent. It gave the impression that we as a people are ready to take matters into our own hands, and we finally understood that we have the power to shape our destiny every four years.

In 2015 we took a gamble that hasn’t really paid off, to put it mildly. But here we are again in 2019, faced with potentially the same scenario, bar a few differences.  There are only a few things separating our two major candidates, both are northern Muslim septuagenarians. Unlike what was obtainable in ‘15, never have we been so divided along religious and ethnic lines like in 2015, when one major candidate was a Christian southerner and the other was Muslim northerner.

We’re being asked to choose between the lesser of two evils again. It seems we have not learnt anything from the experiences we had in 2015.

But yet again, it seems our young folks that have shown interest in giving us a credible alternative have thus far not shown enough, what’s the right word or phrase now, ‘political depth’

I had great hope for the so called ‘third force’ when they initially decided to come together to form PACT. Borne out of the yearning for something different, or even something to hold on to.

But from that fracas, nothing was achieved. As a matter of fact, the winner, losers and even the referee of the so called PACT have eventually gone ahead to contest for the same presidency! This decision of theirs has made it easy for me to see things from a realistic  point of view. Maybe they aren’t interested in seeing a better Nigeria, maybe they are only interested in seeing themselves as the ones who will deliver a better Nigeria.

The way the Nigerian political system is today, if you do not have grassroots structure, you can’t possibly expect to win a presidential election. This alone requires a change to the status quo on such a great scale, So I do not understand whether these ‘minority candidates are simply living in denial, or trying to make a dent so that they can upturn in 2023, or trying to boost the C.V, or biting off more than they can chew and realizing a bit late, or as some conspiracy theorist have postulated working to ensure the reelection of the incumbent. There are a million and one reasons I could think of, except the one that matters, which is actually wanting to realistically see Nigeria become a better place.

I was listening to the radio on my way to work the other day, and one of the speakers said that in his recent travels, he has been to the state of origins one of these other ‘third force’ candidates, and spoken to folks that live there. No single poster or banners, most don’t even know that their illustrious son is gunning for the top office in the country.

NIGERIA IS NOT JUST LAGOS AND ABUJA SPRINKLED WITH PORTHARCOURT AND KANO!

 This brings me to the debacle that went down at the just concluded presidential debate. The absence of one of the major candidates at the debate, and the non-participation of the other, despite already being at the venue really helped to put things into perspective that day. As I already had the premonition that both of them would find a way to wiggle out of the debate, I decided to use the time to ‘do something better’ by cheering my favorite team playing a game at that same time. That too unfortunately (for them) didn’t end well.

What does it tell you if the two most likely guys to win, didn’t participate in the debate?

It speaks to the tragic irrelevance of meaningful intellectual discourse in our political clime. It’s a vicious cycle really. They understood that their actions, or inactions will not even put a dent on their political ambition. Why? Couple of reasons I could point to actually…

Things like the high level of voter apathy amongst the educated folks, and because of the vigorous enthusiasm displayed by the average uneducated Nigerian in participating in partisan politics, are some of the reasons why we are where we are today (it’s kind of hard to pronounce actually lol).

We’ll talk about how the current political class has weaponized illiteracy and poverty to be able to keep the masses voting. But that is a story for some other time.

 It went a long way to show two things. One being that these our major candidates don’t rate us at all, and the other being  that Debates and intellectual conversations, however appealing they can be, do not win elections in Nigeria.

 For the benefit of those who don’t know, according to INEC, for you to win the presidential elections, you have to obtain

1. The highest number of vote cast AND

2.  Not less than one quarter of votes cast at the election in each of at least two-thirds of all states in the federation and in the FCT Abuja.

Why this minority candidate have conveniently chosen to ignore this, especially the second one, which emphasizes my point of political outreach is bewildering. Even the incumbent party got to where they are today as a result of an alliance.

It’s not just enough to select a vice presidential candidate from the north, like some have done. (Should take me to this issue of the principle of federal character, but that too is a topic for another day, or year)

So what’s the issue here?

Obviously these third force guys have to have some other goal for running, they confirmed that when they couldn’t band together and keep an agreement and the ‘PACT’ fell apart. Unless they are just using this to announce their presence in the political scene. Either ways.

If we are going to break  the stronghold  of these two major recycling machine parties (I believe it has become clear to us that they are not going to take us to where we want to be) despite all the challenges, the moves for 2023 needs to start happening NOW.

You’ll notice I’m not talking about the elections that are almost upon us, and that is for a good reason. Based on what is obtainable now, there is no point deceiving ourselves that there will be a paradigm shift this year. It is simply not going to happen.

To our current “coalition of 3rd force”, WHEN you lose, don’t go to sleep, we see you (here in the major cities) we hear what you’re saying and it’s making sense. Start now to iron out your differences, and start now to be active opposition. Start now to build this grassroots’ connection which you so badly lack.

Start to build structure now, if it means putting individual and party resources together, start the coalitions and alliances with the like-minded people now. Start to pull funds now, start to build grassroots’ connections now (need to say this again for proper emphasis), and start to make your intentions known NOW. Don’t wait till the summer of 2022 to come and tell us. Give us a multitude of reasons to be solidly behind you come ’23 (not like we don’t already have enough but you get the idea).

Won’t I give whoever wins amongst the top two candidates a chance to do something, well, I did  here, look where we are now. So I’m already looking at new leadership. Our failsafe plan if/when things don’t get any better in the next four years shouldn’t be to dip into this same cesspool that has been churning out our current political class.  Our current crop of leaders are, to put it mildly, largely underperforming and underwhelming.

It’s easy to seat in the comfort (no light sha) of my home and say this and that. The groundwork is the key here. Start making moves and watch things fall in place.

 

This is my candid opinion. What’s yours?

 

Till inspiration finds me again…sayonara.

 

 

P.S. this article has been in the works for a while, the lack of current updates (things are happening so fast) is completely intentional.
 
 
 
 

Monday, 16 July 2018

"PIERCED AND TATTED"



















Hello!
it's been too long...
So I had an experience or a series of experiences recently that has prompted me to share my thoughts on the issue of piercings and tattoos and general body modifications.

 A friend of mine told me  she wanted to get “extra piercings”.

 Then I saw another friend of mine wearing an anklet  or ankle bracelets.

On a personal level, I had previously never given too much thought to people with various forms of body modifications, majorly because I didn't know anyone close enough to me for me to think about it, and also because I have learnt to look beyond the superficial and try to see the heart of the individual I'm communicating with. but in these cases, these were people I knew and have close relationships with. so I had to think seriously about it.
My initial reaction in both scenarios was what actually prompted me to do this write up. Being from a typically conservative African family, growing up, I had been given a skewed view about things like piercings and tattoos and anklets and stuff like that, I was told that it was for “wayward, irresponsible members of society”. 

That has been the African stereotype for things like that, we’ve always been taught to frown upon these “bad influences from the western civilization”. And in all earnest, we can’t deny that a lot of people with questionable characters are drawn, or seem to have an affinity for body modifications and stuff like that.  that could also explain why we have incessant cases of harassment from these SARS officials of young men sporting dreadlocks and being fancifully dressed. they, like the typical Nigerian parent, sees that as tell-tale signs that the individual is 'a bad boy'. (well, some of them are just downright opportunistic and constantly abuse their powers,  as I have witnessed, but that's a story for another day).

In social psychology, a stereotype is an over generalized belief about a particular category of people.  It is usually  based on observations and experiences, that hold water when initially formed, but can be known to dissipate quickly especially nowadays.

My initial reaction to my friend ( even though I didn’t say it out loud) was “why would you want to get extra piercings, don’t you see the kind of people who do that?”. That was the African child in me speaking, that thought process was born out of not just what had been ingrained in me, but what I had partially validated from observations of the society. (and partially invalidated, too)

But a lot of things have changed these days, people’s way of thinking generally, and how society as a whole, as a global community views certain things. ( in other words, we’re now woke).

Now we all know that, people have tattoos or get piercings and stuff like that for different reasons. Some see it as an expression of art,  some see it as a means of telling a story, you know how they say pictures say a thousand words, some as a means of accentuating their beauty, and let's not forget that even in most traditional African society, tattoos and general body modifications, although not as elaborate as what we see today, were/are also part and parcel of the tradition and culture. and there  are so many other reasons. 



We in this part of the world are now breaking free or have broken free from that notion that only ‘bad people” do stuff like that. The question, or the right question is why we are doing that thing., whether or not it does more for your personal beauty is really a personal thing. Personally  I don’t see the need for all those extra things, but that’s just me, different strokes for different folks. 
 I have since  gained a new realization, a new insight, and that's what I'd like to share. I didn't come to this realization until I spoke to yet another friend of mine, I told her about my other friends that intended to get extra piercings, and the anklet case. in all honesty I was almost expecting a similar reaction with the one I first had, but she was quite open about it, she was even considering getting one! (for all the right reasons) lol. I have to admit I was a bit surprised, but that conversation helped me re think the whole thing through, I started to see the issue from a whole new light, and not hold on so strongly to the conservative views of the African man. 

The whole point of this is learning to do things for the right reasons, for logical reasons, that are capable of breaking barriers. The question I should have asked in my head, based on what is obtainable in today’s world ( I mean as per being part of the woke generation) was “ why do you feel the need to do that? Do you feel it accentuates your beauty? Basically are you doing it for the right (or what is considered to be the right) reasons?. and more importantly, are you doing it for you?
That, my people, is my candid opinion.
what's yours?
black history in one beautiful work of art! 



But what really defines beauty for us? That one sef na story for another day.
Till then...sayonara!

Wednesday, 13 June 2018

Love is a beautiful thing



"kids, this is the story about how I met your mother"

This is a Ted Mosby inspired write up.

I've just finished watching how i met your mother recently, (yes i only just watched it), and I've learnt or rather I've realized quite a few things from the emotional  roller coaster ride of Ted Evelyn Mosby ( he never should have told Barney that middle name truly). it kind of fits at this point in my life and I'd like to share some of the insights for me from the show.

first is, when it comes to relationships, never settle, never settle for less, your whole life will revolve around the individual you eventually decide to be with, so it is important that that person be someone you have a deep connection with. The person you eventually end up with may not " tick all your boxes",  they may not like everything you like and vice versa, but isn't that the beauty of a relationship? its about appreciating your similarities and respecting your differences. After so many years of searching, and settling, Ted came to this realization right before he met his wife. in so many of the previous relationships he had been in, it was mostly out of loneliness, or ( in most cases) an
"I'd just settle for this one, lets see how it goes". That's a NO NO people, you have the right to be with the person you truly deserve, The person who "completes you".

Ted went through a lot of relationships in the series, but always had a thing for Robin. even when she didn't feel the same way, so deep down, he was never fully committed in any of the subsequent relationships he had after Robin, because he hadn't fully let go of Robin. To be able to embrace the future mrs ted mosby, when she finally came, Ted had to fully let go (no matter how hard it was ). that leads me to part of the things i realized. don't hold on to the past, learn to let things go, if its not working out, don't force it. what will be will be.

Relationships nowadays are more like a past time hobby for us young folks, the concept of falling in love has been greatly eroded by our woke generation. but when you finally get to that moment when you're ready, it is important that you remember that every one deserves to love and to love greatly, love is a beautiful thing (don't get it twisted), the most powerful force in the universe. love can be demanding and sacrificial, it requires two people that truly want to be together, its not always a bed of roses. but, when you finally find 'the one'. it all becomes worth it.
(p.s Barney Stinson's awesome!)


Wednesday, 10 August 2016

Day 26 and the rest...

So this is the final lap of the blog challenge!
It's been a long journey, but we're finally here,

I hope I'll be dropping more posts from now on..

Day 26
Hidden talent?
Hmmm...
I know how to sing very well...in the shower..

Day 27
What's in your closet?
Everything.
Everything I need.
Everything you can think of that you think I need

Day 28
Most embarrassing moment?
Try to avoid that a lot.
There was this one time in junior secondary that I had to do a debate, and I totally flopped,
Its still fresh in my head.

Day 29
A confession?
I can be susceptible to emotional palava...
So I try to avoid drama as much as possible

Day 30
Hopes for your blog?
I hope every youth that visits will be empowered through his own works. I want to give the youth their freedom of expression...that we seem to have lost...
Most of all I hope that I can be a catalyst for positive change through this medium.

So help me God.

Saturday, 30 July 2016

Day 19 and more...

Hi people!
Been away for a while
How y'all doing?
Day 18...well we'll get back to that

Day 19
Your favorite movie?
Tough choice, but ill go with lionheart. Jean claude  van damme played the lead role…classic!

Day 20
What makes you happy?
Lots of things actually, you know it’s the little little things in life that count…

Day 21
What makes you sad?
Injustice, seeing people suffer for no just cause…things like that

Day 22
Your worst habits?
Hmm..i procastinate stuff sometimes, I drink too much tea and eat too much bread.

Day 23
If you won the lottery?
Wow!
The lottery!
I’ll be an accountant and utilize the money judiciously and efficiently…after buying my dream house, with a grand piano.  And of course touch lives positively

Day 24
What attracts you in love?
Hmmm…
It’s a dicey situation…
For me, a thinker and a doer, someone who has a deep love for a GOD, someone who understands, who knows all my flaws and imperfections but still thinks I’m amazing…I hope that’s not too much to ask lol.


Day 25
Your biggest regret?
Not taking the opportunties and risk I should have…for fear of failure or the feeling of not being good enough.
But yet again… ‘it all fits in in the grand scheme of things’











Tuesday, 12 July 2016

DAY 16 AND 17

Day 16
Thoughts on education?
I feel education is a basic necessity that every child should have access to, and also in our mordern day society, we owe it to ourselves to pursue our dreams, and in doing that, getting an education won’t hurt.





Day 17
Favorite blogs?
Frandela.wordpress.com
Schlolargrants.com
Shugarythots.wordpress.com
Make sure you check them out….


Wednesday, 6 July 2016

DAY 11 AND OTHERS...


Day 11
10 fav foods?
Food!... I don’t think I have up to ten though.
·         Bread and tea, I love bread and  tea
·         Plantain and anything that goes with plantain…beans, pap, indomie etc
·         Fufu and egwusi soup…



Day 12
Fav childhood book?
Hmmm…can’t remember any, wasn’t much of a reader then, my love for reading (other things apart from school books) is a more recent affair, then I read a lot of jeffery archer novels, and frederick forsyth, kane and abel, sons of fortune, epic novels!



Day 13
Whats inside your fridge?
Plenty things, plenty edible things, I reeealllyyyy like the fridge




Day 14
3 healthy habits?
·         I try to work out…sometimes
·         I drink a lot of water
·         I subconsciously balance out my diet




Day 15
Where will you be in 5 years?
Would have achieved all my short term/current goals and more.